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  • Loss through Death
  • Hidden Losses
  • Anticipatory Grief
  • Complicated Grief
  • Traumatic Grief
  • Other Loss


Topics in this section:

        Significant Loss
        Quality of the Loss




Articles And Books On Loss:

General                           Parental Loss in Adulthood

Parental and Other Loss in Childhood/ Adolescence

Partner Loss                   Loss of a Child                   Sibling Loss

Grandparent Loss         Friend Loss                         Sudden Loss/ Traumatic Grief

Workplace Loss             Hidden or Unsupported Loss  

Complicated Grief/ Traumatic Grief                       Other Loss


Attig, T. (1996), How We Grieve. New York: Oxford University Press.

Davis Prend, A. (1997), Transcending Loss: Understanding the Lifelong Impact of Grief and How to Make It Meaningful. New York: Berkley Books.

Doka, K. (1998), Living with Grief: Who We Are and How We Grieve. Washington, DC: The Hospice Foundation of America.

Hagman, G. (2001), Beyond Decathexis: Toward a New Psychoanalytic Understanding And Treatment. In: Meaning Reconstruction and Experience of Loss, ed. R. Neimeyer. Washington, DC, American Psychological Association, pp. 13—31.

James, J., and R. Friedman. (1998), The Grief Recovery Handbook, Revised Edition, New York: Harper Collins.

Klass D., P. Silverman & S. Nickman, eds. (1996), Continuing Bonds: New Understandings of Grief. Bristol., PA: Taylor & Francis.

Lamm, M. (2004), Consolation: The Spiritual Journey Beyond Grief. Philadelphia, PA: The Jewish Publication Society, Inc.

Neimeyer, R. (2001), Lessons of Loss: A Guide to Coping. Memphis, TN: Center For the Study of Loss and Transition.

Neimeyer, R. (2001), Meaning Reconstruction and the Experience of Loss. Washington, DC: American Psychological Association.

Rando, T. (1991), How to Go on Living When Someone You Know Dies, New York: Bantam Books.

Stroebe, M., and Schut, H. (1999), The dual process model of coping with bereavement: Rationale and description. Death Studies, 23, 197—224.


Significant Losses:

Parental Loss in Adulthood:

Akner, L. (1999), How to Survive the Loss of a Parent. New York: Harper Collins.

Cobb, N. (2000), In Lieu of Flowers: A Conversation for the Living. New York: Pantheon Books.

Edelman, H. (1995), Motherless Daughters. Cambridge, MA: Da Capo Press.

Gaines, R. (1997), Detachment and continuity. Contemp. Psychoanal., 33:549—571.

Harris, M. (1995), The Loss That Is Forever: The Lifelong Impact of the Early Death of a Mother or Father. New York: Plume/Penguin

Myers, E. (1997), When Parents Die: A Guide for Adults. New York: Penguin Books.

Simon, C. (2002), Fatherless Women: How We Change After We Lose Our Dads. Hoboken, New Jersey: John Wiley and Sons.

Umberson , D. (2003), Death of a Parent: Transition to a New Adult Identity. MA: Cambridge University Press. (Written for middle-aged offspring.)

Parental And Other Losses in Childhood/ Adolescence:

For Parents and Teachers                     For Children                    For Adolescents

For Children and Adolescents              Sibling Loss

Grandparent Loss                                    Additional Books and Videos

For Parents, Teachers and Adults with Early Parental Loss:

Christ, G. (2000), Healing Children’s Grief: Surviving a Parent’s Death from Cancer. New York: Oxford University Press.

Compton, N., Lieberman, A. and Van Horn, P. (2003), Losing a Parent to Death in the Early Years. Washington, DC: Zero to Three Press

Dann, P. (2007), The Goldfish Went on Vacation: A Memoir of Loss. Boston, MA: Trumpeter Books.

The Dougy Center. (2000), 35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child. Portland, OR: The Dougy Center for Grieving Children.

The Dougy Center (2000), Helping the Grieving Student: A Guide for Teachers, Portland, OR: The Dougy Center for Grieving Children.

Fitzgerald, H. (1992), A Grieving Child : A Parent’s Guide. New York: Simon and Schuster.

Fitzgerald, H., (2000), The Grieving Teen. New York: Simon and Schuster.

Gordon, J., and K. Doka (2000), Living with Grief: Children, Adolescents and Loss.

Grollman, E. A., ed. (1996), Bereaved Children and Teens: A Support Guide for Parents and Professionals. Boston: Beacon Press.

Horsley, H. (2007), Teen Grief Relief: Parenting with Understanding, Support and Guidance. Florida: Rainbow Books.

Jewett, C. (1982), Helping Children Cope with Separation and Loss. Harvard, MA: The Harvard Common Press.

Lobban, G. (2007), Reclaiming the relationship with the lost parent following parental death during adolescence. In: On Deaths and Endings: Psychoanalysts’ Reflections on Finality, Transformations and New Beginnings, ed. B. Willock, L. Bohm, L. and R. Curtis. New York: Routledge, pp. 131—145.

Silverman, P. (2000), Never Too Young to Know: Death in Children’s Lives. New York: Oxford University Press.

Worden, J. (1996), Children and Grief: When a Parent Dies. New York: Guilford Press. (The author presents the findings, in clear language, of The Harvard Child Bereavement Study, and offers preventive interventions.)

For Children:

Heegaard, M. (1988), When Someone Very Special Dies. Minneapolis, MN: Woodland Press.

O’Toole, D. (1988), Aarvy Aardvark Finds Hope. North Carolina Compassion Press.

Romain, T. (1999), What on Earth Do You Do When Someone Dies? Minneapolis, MN: Free Spirit.

Silverman, J. (1999), Help Me Say Goodbye: Activities for Helping Kids Cope When a Special Person Dies. Minneapolis, MN:Fairview Press. (Also for parents and teachers use.)

Thomas, P. (2000), I Miss You: A First Look at Death. Happauge, New York: Barron’s Educational Series.

Viorst, J. (1971), The Tenth Good Thing About Barney. New York: Aladdin Paperbacks.

For Adolescents:

Abrams, R. (1992), When Parents Die: Learning to Live with the Loss of a Parent. New York: Routledge. (Ages: late adolescence to adulthood.)

Grollman, E. (1993), Straight Talk About Death for Teenagers. Boston, Massachusetts: Beacon Press.

Hughes, L. (2005), You Are Not Alone: Teens Talk About Life After the Death of a Parent. Burnsville, NC: Compassion Books.

Teens (1998), Teens Write Through It. MN: Fairview Press.

For Children and Adolescents:

Krementz, J. (1981), How It Feels When a Parent Dies. New York: Knopf.

Sibling Loss:

White, G. P. (2006), Sibling Grief: Healing After the Death of a Brother or a Sister. Bloomington, Indiana: iUniverse, Inc.

Grandparent Loss:

Nobisso, J. (1991), Grandpa Loved. New York: Simon and Schuster.

Nobisso, J. (2000), Grandma’s Scrapbook. Westhampton, NY: Gingerbread House Books. Companion book to Grandpa Loved.

For Additional Books and Videos for Children, Parents and Teachers:

Children’s Grief

Compassion Books, Burnsville, NC

The Barr-Harris Children’s Grief Center, Chicago

The Dougy Center for Grieving Children and Families, Oregon

Partner Loss:

Didion, J. (2007), The Year of Magical Thinking. New York: Knopf.

Lewis, C. S. (1994), A Grief Observed. New York: Harper Collins.

Lieberman, M. (1996), Doors Open, Doors Close: Widows Grieving and Growing. New York: Putnam. (The author presents the findings of interviews with 700 widows and widowers.)

Loewensohn, R. (1984), Survival Handbook for Widows (and for friends and relatives who want to understand). Glenview, Illinois: AARP, Scott, Foresman and Co.

Silverman, P. (2004), Widow to Widow, 2nd Ed. London, UK: Routledge Publishers.

Loss of a Child:

Klass, D. (1999), The Spiritual Lives of Bereaved Parents. New York: Rutledge Press.

Marx, R., and Davidson, S. (2004), Facing the Ultimate Loss: Coping with the Death of a Child. Illinois: Sourcebooks, Inc.

Rosenblatt, P. (2000), Help Your Marriage Survive the Death of a Child. PA: Temple University Press.

Friend Loss:

Smith, H. I. ( 2001), An Absence Called Presence. Amityville, NY: Baywood Publishers.


Quality of the Loss:

Hidden Loss or Unsupported Loss:

Boss, P. (1999), Ambiguous Loss. Massachusetts: Harvard University Press.

Complicated Grief/Traumatic Grief:  

Shear, K., Frank, E. , Houck, P. and Reynolds, C. (2005), Treatment of complicated grief. JAMA, 293:2601-2608.

Figley, C. (1999), Traumatology of Grieving: Conceptual, Theoretical and Treatment Foundations. PA: Brunner/Mazel.

Sudden Loss/Traumatic Grief:

Cammarata, D. (2001), Someone I Loved Died by Suicide. Burnsville, NC: Compassion Books. (For children and caretakers.)

Doka, K. (1996), Living with Grief After Sudden Loss, Suicide, Homicide, Accident, Heart Attack, Stroke. Washington, DC: Hospice Foundation of America.

Fine, C. (1997), No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One.

Rynearson, E. (2001 ), Retelling Violent Death. New York: Broadway Books.

Workplace Loss:

Wolfelt, A. (1999), Healing Grief at Work: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Workplace Is Touched by Loss. Burnsville, NC: Companion Press.

Other Loss:

Pet Loss

Wolfelt, A. (2004), When Your Pet Dies: A Guide to Mourning, Remembering and Healing. Ballwin, MO: Independent Publishing Group.

Wilheim, H. (1985), I’ll Always Love You. New York: Crown Publishers. (Pet loss, for children.)


Other Resources For Young People:

Comfort Zone Camp—the largest independent bereavement summer camp for children, ages 7—17 who have lost a parent through death. No cost. Located in the New York metro area and Virginia. Contact: toll free, 866-488-5679 or

Camp Good Grief—in Alexandria, VA, for children whose military parent has died. Toll free, 800-959-8277.

“Find Your Voice” Summer Workshop in Manhattan—for teens who have lost a parent through death. A small group will write short plays and enact them in a highly supportive environment led by a dedicated theater coach and social worker. No previous theater or playwriting experience needed. Some scholarships available. Call Director, Gail Noppe Brandon, 212-741-9868 or


Organizational Resources And Links:

Alzheimer’s Association of New York

American Association for Suicidology
Education and research focus—no direct services.

The American Group Psychotherapy Association
Make a charitable contribution to the foremost professional association dedicated to group therapy. Direct community based services and group trauma training in response to disasters is also part of its expanded services.
To donate to the AGPA Foundation: Go to website,

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

Association for Death Education and Counseling

Center for Hospice and Palliative Care

Compassionate Friends.
Peer grief support after the death of a child.

Continuum Hospice Care—Jacob Perlow Hospice

A Caring Hand, Billy Esposito Foundation and Bereavement Center
For grieving children and their caregivers.

Dougy Center—National Center for Grieving Children and Families

Grief and Renewal

Jewish Board of Family and Children’s Services,
Loss and Bereavement Program for Children and Adolescents

A Little Hope: The National Foundation for Grieving Children and Teens
Charitable foundation initiated after 9/11; currently has a national reach.

Hospice Foundation of America

National Association of People with AIDS
Toll free 866-846-9366

National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization

National Sudden Infant Death Resource Center
Resources and support groups for miscarriage, stillbirth,
and other infant death.
866-866-7437, toll free

New York Hospice Care—Visiting Nursing Services of NY

Suicide Bereavement Services of New York:
A Psychological Center for Survivors
Dr. Eli Mayer, Executive Director

The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors—TAP
Peer support and resources for military families
coping with the death of a service member.
202-588-8277, general or 800-959-8277, hotline

Tuesday’s Children
Programs for children and families with 9/11 related loss.

Center for Bereavement does not necessarily endorse all the views expressed or the facts presented on these listed sites.